PARENTS, WHY THE RUSH?
By Sunday Akande
I attended a public main faculty which had courses starting from Primary 1 to Primary 6.
My lecturers observed my brilliance in Primary 4, so I used to be requested to hitch my seniors in Primary 6 for my Primary School Leaving Certificate Exam. By that, I might soar two courses and go to secondary faculty two years earlier than my mates.
I wrote my mom to tell her. Her reply was easy: do not do it. She stated I might miss the syllabi and the processes of Primary 5 and Primary 6 which might have an effect on me in secondary faculty.
Whenever I keep in mind her response, I all the time surprise at her knowledge. For your data, my mom is just not literate; she by no means went to high school. So how did she arrive at what she suggested me?
Simple. My mom understands the significance of course of. She believes as soon as a stage is jumped, one meets the results sooner or later.
I later understood her level. When I received to Primary 5, my lecturers referred to as me once more and gave me the identical supply of writing my terminal examination. I refused, giving them my mom’s clarification.
Now, after I received to Primary 6, I used to be to be made the Senior Boy, however there was a consensus that I used to be too tiny a boy to manage that giant faculty, so I used to be made the Assistant Senior Boy, whereas one other boy, large and likewise sensible, was made the Senior Boy.
I learnt quite a bit in that remaining yr. Apart from being the Assistant Senior Boy, I used to be the Class Captain of my class arm. I used to be uncovered to management and human administration. By the advantage of my closeness to lecturers and the administration, I learnt terminologies and expertise associated to official positions and managements.
Inter alia, I supervised the contributions in the direction of our final-year mission. Each scholar was to contribute 50 kobo per day. I used to be to gather the cash, collate, and make it obtainable to the committee in control of the mission. Whenever I cross by the college and see the signpost constructed with that cash, I really feel fulfilled.
I used to be solely 12. Many of my mates have been older. But I learnt the way to relate with all of them. I represented them in lots of competitions – drama, debates, and exams.
Eventually, I gained admission into a non-public secondary faculty. I found those that got here from public colleges felt inferior to these from personal colleges. I did not have that complicated in any respect. You know why? I had an publicity that a lot of them did not have. One, I accomplished my fundamental main faculty research. Two, I used to be sufficiently old to know that course of and expertise.
Thank God for my mom who insisted I am going by the entire course of. God bless Màámi.
I do not know who began the “double promotion” of a factor. It is improper. Parents who derive pleasure of their youngsters skipping courses do not perceive the significance of course of. You cannot purchase expertise; you need to bear a course of to assemble it. Why ought to your baby begin secondary faculty at 8?
Your baby failed a category. And so? Let him/her repeat the category. It comes with an inestimable expertise. Your baby desires to review drugs, they supplied him arithmetic, and also you all know he has all it takes to review drugs. Must he go to high school this yr? “Ehn…his mates will enter university before him.” And so? Why the push?
Why the push in our era? Where precisely are we going? Why are dad and mom breeding immature adults all within the title of haste? Let your youngsters be cooked with time. Stop breeding half-done youngsters. If you elevate them in a rush, they’d not be capable to face up to the complexity of life and they might crumble at each little problem. They could be pissed off. To keep away from the challenges, they’d be able to steal, kill, and destroy.
But in case you prepare them with and in persistence, they’d be taught quite a bit. They could be ripe for all times. Their emotional intelligence could be excessive. Their social expertise could be nice. Even if they’re early risers, allow them to know that brilliance and expertise aren’t the identical. And each are wanted for all times.
Parenting is supposed to be a cautious and purposeful journey; it’s not a contest. Pause and ask your self, “Why the rush?”