How To Prepare A Prosperous Future For Your Children

A Repost from 2019!

1. Your alternative of partner issues

A righteous partner is essential to making ready a affluent future in your kids. Your alternative of companion mirrors the sort of life, character and character that you simply want to see in your kids. Never marry besides somebody you need as baby.  A preferred saying in Arabic is, العِرْقُ دَسَّاسٌ (What is bred within the bone will come out within the flesh). This expression is taken from a hadīth declared weak by consultants, which says, تَخَيَّرُوا لِنُطْفِكُم، فَإِنَّ العِرْقَ دَسَّاسٌ. You can’t put together your baby for a affluent future the place you and your companion are reverse of one another. Marry somebody that shares your desires, and that’s prepared to sacrifice his/her consolation for the sake of your kids. At all time, each dad and mom should be on the identical web page as per what they need for the youngsters and learn how to obtain it. One of the explanations for failure of many individuals is failed parenting arising from battle of curiosity over pointless issues…the sort of spouse you want is the سَمِعْنا وَأَطَعْنا kind, and never the سَمِعْنا وَعَصَينا breed…

2. Role Modeling

Both dad and mom should first mirror the sort of future that they need for his or her children each of their private and non-private lives. You can’t simply be the other of what you need in your kids.

إذا كان رَبُّ البَيتِ بالدُّفِّ ضارِباً   فَشِيمَةُ أَهلِ البَيتِ كُلِّهِمُ الرَّقْصُ

Where the pinnacle of the household is an expert drummer, your entire households do nothing than dancing…

If the dad and mom are given to all types of corruption and immorality, it’s immaterial whether or not or not they train their kids to be saints. They will certainly take after them, consciously or in any other case.

مَشَى الطَّاوُوسُ يومًا باعْوِجاجٍ     فَقَلَّدَ شَكْلَ مِشْيَتِهِ بَنُوه ُ

The peacock as soon as walked crookedly, and the peachicks imitated him (and started to stroll as such)

فقال عَلامَ تَخْتالون؟ قالوا:    بدَأْتَ به ونحن مُقلِّدوه ُ

Says he, why are you strolling crookedly? They replied: You began it, and we’re merely imitating you.

فَخالِفْ سَيركَ المِعْوَجَّ واعْدِلْ      فإنَّا إنْ عَدلْتَ مُعَدِّلوه

Change your crooked model and stroll straight. Once you achieve this, we too will change our model.

أما تدري أبانا كُلُّ فَرْعٍ   يجاري بالخطى من أدَّبوه؟

Hast thou know not, dad, {that a} baby takes after its mentor?

وينشأ ناشئ الفتيان منا … على ما كان عَوَّده أبوه

And every younger one amongst us shall develop up exhibiting what he has imbibed from his father.

3. Spiritual Balanced Diet

Just as balanced weight loss plan meals are essential for the bodily and psychological progress of the kid, so is also the religious balanced weight loss plan essential for the expansion of the religion of the Muslim baby. This weight loss plan should tiltnot in direction of both extremism or laxity. A fast look via Sūrah Luqmān will reveal the significance of this for the preparation of a affluent additional for the kid. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم stated: “Command your children to pray when they are seven years of age…” With Salāt comes prosperity, therefore the decision حَيَّ على الصلاة، حَيَّ على الفلاح “come to prayer, come to prosperity.” He عليه السلام additionally stated to Abdullāh bn ‘Abbās, “Be watchful of Allāh, He will preserve you. Be mindful of Allāh, He will ever be with you.”

عَلِّمُوا أَولادَكُمْ دِينَكُمُ   لِيُقِمُوا بَعْدَكُم آثارَكُم

Teach your children your religion, so they can preserve your heritage after you’re lengthy gone…

Ibn Qayyim rahimahullāh stated:

فمَنْ أهمَلَ تعليمَ وَلَدِه ما يَنْفَعهُ وتركَهُ سُدىً، فقد أساءَ إليهِ غايةَ الإساءةِ، وأكثرُ الأولادِ إنما جاءَ فسادُهُم من قِبَلِ الآباءِ وإهمالِهم لهُم، وتركِ تعليمهِم فرائضَ الدِّينِ وسُنَنه، فأضاعُوهُم صغاراً، فلَم ينتفعوا بأنفسهِم، ولم ينفعوا آبَاءَهُم كباراً، كمَا عاتَبَ بعضُهُم ولَدَهُ على العُقوقِ، فقالَ: يا أبَتِ إنكَ عَقَقْتَني صغيراً، فَعَقَقْتُكَ كبيراً، وأضعْتَنِي وليداً، فأضعْتُكَ شيخاً

The one who abandons instructing his baby what is going to profit him, leaving him to himself, has certainly wronged him within the worst potential method. The root of corruption of many kids comes from their father’s lackadaisical angle to instructing them each the compulsory and voluntary precepts of the faith… a person as soon as rebuked his son for disobeying him and the son replied, o dad, you disobeyed me whereas I used to be younger (by not tutoring and mentoring me) resulting in my disobeying you at previous age. You deserted me after I was younger and in flip I deserted you whenever you’re previous…

4. Quality Education

Parents should be able to spend their final kobo to offer their kids with high quality schooling in order to organize them for the challenges of life forward…

5. Moral Values

Morality is a priceless asset. You can’t develop it all of a sudden. The Yoruba do say, “An untrained child will sell off our hard earned assets.”

Prosperity in life relies upon not solely on high quality schooling but additionally on good character. For occasion, the Yoruba additionally do say, “when a lady lacks morality, she claims that she lacks a head for husband” (lols)

6. Entrepreneurship

Prophet Ibrahim taught his son, Ismā’īl structure and constructing. They each constructed the Ka’abah Q.2:127. With the present developments in expertise, the long run is for individuals who create jobs. Soon, AI could begin changing people and taking their jobs. Let your children study one thing significant and profitable. One very fertile space at this time is IT. Enough of trend designing, tailoring, furnishings…net designing, et cetera is the brand new gold mine. By the time they get into the college, chances are you’ll not must be paying full tuition for them, if they start this entrepreneurship coaching on time.

7. Let them know the worth and dignity of labour

Even if you happen to’re stupendously wealthy, don’t expose your kids a lot to affluence to the extent that they start to assume that you simply’re a cash printing machine or that cash is straightforward to get. Put them via stress of labour. Let them know that every kobo you spend on them takes a gallon of sweat to get. Watch how they spend each penny. More importantly, watch the way you spend, too.

8. Invest of their names

Sa’d bn Abī waqqās was on his sick mattress in Makkah when the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم visited him. Sa’d sought the prophet’s recommendation on what to do along with his huge wealth. He had just one baby, a daughter. He stated, shall I give all of it in charity? The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم stated, no. He requested, shall I give a half of it in charity? The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم stated, no. He stated, shall I give a 3rd of it in charity? The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, Yes, But even a 3rd is way. He added, “it’s better for you to leave your children wealthy than to leave them poor and destitute, begging people for sustenance.” Don’t be like some Yoruba dad and mom that say, earlier than a baby chop 20, I might have chop 30. Invest in shares and different halal companies in your kids. Buy properties of their names.

9. Prayer

The individuals of hijāz at this time get pleasure from safety and abundance of wealth because of the prayer of prophet Ibrahim…Q.2:126 & 14:35.

“My Lord, make this metropolis [Makkah] a spot of safety and supply its individuals with fruits, such of them as consider in Allah and the Last Day.”

As a results of his prayer, Allāh says: Have We not established for them a secure haven ˹in Mecca˺ to which fruits of every kind are introduced as a provision from Us? But most of them have no idea ˹this favour˺. Q.28:57

Sanusi Lafiagi

Excerpts from my lecture at this time at The Spring of Knowledge (Al-Mawrid) Schools, Bello Folawiyo Street, Mr Biggs Junction, off Ketu-Ikosi street, Lagos.

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