*”DOCTOR DON’T MIND MY CHILDREN O, THEY DONT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY. GIVE MY HUSBAND THE DRUG. LET HIM KILL ME: ANOTHER INTRIGUING LESSON FROM INSIDE MY CONSULTING ROOM”*
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This story occurred 7 years in the past however it was just lately I acquired the consent of Mr Frank and the spouse, Mrs Cecilia, to share it with you. Happy studying…
The first day I met Mr Frank I discovered it tough to imagine *he was 80 years outdated.*
He got here along with his lovely and humorous spouse *Mrs Cecilia who was 70 years outdated.*
They had been very attention-grabbing outdated couple. *They had been married for 50 years.*
I admired their friendship. It was apparent that they’d loved the companionship of marriage.
*”We were blessed with 5 children” Mr Frank mentioned.* Before Mr Frank might end his assertion, Mrs Cecilia minimize in like a proud mom and mentioned
“One is in UK, a medical doctor;
One is in US, an engineer;
One is in Canada, a nurse;
The remaining two are in Nigeria. One is a lawyer and the other one is a businesswoman.
*They are all happily married doctor. God has been good to us”*
Much extra interesting to me was the well being of two of them. They had been nonetheless bodily, mentally, spiritually and socially sound.
What a blessing from God. At such superior age, the one signal of outdated age in them was they had been utilizing strolling sticks and glasses however they may go wherever they needed to go unaccompanied by their youngsters or any member of the family.
This was the primary time I used to be assembly them inside my consulting room. They simply returned from UK on vacation to their Medical Doctor son staying there.
They even gisted me about how a lot enjoyable they’d. How they did their full medical examine up in UK. They additionally got here with the stories.
*I went by means of the stories. I used to be wowed about how nice their well being standing was*
After studying their nice medical examine up stories from UK, *I requested them what was their secret of excellent well being?*
They each proudly informed me “doctor this kind of good health in old age is:
*A big blessing from God* combined with;
A good lifestyle of not drinking alcohol;
Good balanced diet;
Constantly taking fruits and vegetables;
Reducing salt and too much oil;
Supporting each other on our life goals and ambition;
Having a family goal together;
*Serving God and having a good marriage, family and good gene*
*But most importantly my son, practising continuous daily forgiveness*
*You will live long as a married couple if you learn to forgive each other quickly on daily basis without carrying over any offence to the next day*
*This is our rule that no offence must cross to the next day. Both the offender and the offended must sort it out before 12 midnight.*
We respect this rule till now and it has tremendously helped us live long we believe.
*My wife and myself exercised together often since we got married 50 years ago and till today nothing has changed*
*Doctor we still take a walk together in the neighbourhood now that we are old”*
I congratulated them for God’s goodness to them.
It is certainly a blessing from God to age nicely with out a lot medication.
*I requested them what they got here to see me for*
They mentioned their physician son in UK informed them to be going to hospital occasionally to examine their blood stress.
I did their blood stress,each of them had been nice.
They requested me to talk with their son physician in UK, which I did.
I counseled him for taking excellent care of his father and wonderful mom. I informed him how a lot I admired their marriage after good 50 years of such nice companionship.
The son responded ” that is how they are o. *You cant come between them. They are two love birds”.*
They dont permit us youngsters to return between them in any respect.
*When we had been youngsters, if any one in every of us offended anybody of them, do not hassle to go and beg one that will help you.*
*That one would nonetheless inform the opposite one and they’d self-discipline you collectively.*
So no escape route for any of us. *We had been disciplined and cherished equally my brother”*
After he finished I told him “Wow, congratulations to you guys for such a terrific parenting you loved from two of them, I’m not shocked all of you turned out nicely in life”. “
Thank you my brother” the doctor appreciated back. Then I told him the blood pressure of two of them were superb as they had instructed me to tell their doctor son that told them to come for the check up.
*As we brought the consultation to a close Mr Frank and the wife told me to give them drug to enhance their sexual life.*
Sincerely I must tell you as a Medical doctor, I was shocked. I taught at that age their bedroom life would be dead.
*I was shocked when they both told me that every week at least once they still met with each other.*
I was speechless. I asked surprisingly ” sir ,ma you imply two of you continue to…. *”they did not allow me to finish my statement they said laughingly to me ” physician it’s till dying do us half o.” Wow wow wow.*
What a day. So many lessons I had learnt from this old, great couple in few minutes of meeting them.
I granted their request. I gave them the drug to help with the mild erectile dysfunction Mr Frank was having and the post menopausal vaginal dryness Mrs Cecilia was having.
They were so happy with me just the way I was so happy with them. They didn’t know how much positively they had touched my soul for a lifetime by teaching me some great marital and family lessons.
*They said ” our son thanks very a lot. God bless you. Are you married?”.*
I was not married as at then. In fact I was ashamed of my self now to tell them I was not married. They laughed and said ” we all know you aren’t married.
*Go and marry o and cease losing your valuable youthful time”*
I stood up and bowed to thank them for the marble words from the elders.
They took their leave and promised to come back and visit soon. They collected my contact that they would like to see me when next they came to the hospital.
I gave them and collected theirs. What a day.
Exactly two months later, I saw them again but this time around with their two daughters that resided in Nigeria.
I meant the lawyer and the business woman.
They looked to me like people in their mid thirties. They were looking happily married too.
They escorted their Papa and Mama to the Hospital. They had called me to book the appointment.
As four of them came I ushered them into inside my consulting room, welcome them warmly.
Mr Frank told me he and his wife just came back from Canada from their Nurse daughter.
I asked them if the frequent travellings were not too stressful for them. They answered ” it’s anxious o our son however we’re getting used to it”.
Then to the business of the day,I asked them if they came for the check of their blood pressure. They affirmed that.
I told the two daughters to excuse us, but Mr Frank insisted that there was no need to send them out of the consulting room.
*In their family they are all one. He raised all the children never to keep secret from one another. They should be united and share their problems together and solved them together”*
Another lesson once more as we speak ” I said quietly to myself in my mind. I concurred to the request since that was how the patient wanted it, that no secret (confidentiality) was their family tradition.
After the usual blood pressure check everything was fine. Everybody was happy.
*About to leave Mr Frank, in the presence of his two daughters, asked for erection enhancement drug like he did the first day.*
The two daughters laughed but insisted that I should not give him. They said and I quote ” *Daddy do you need to kill mummy? At this age, you aren’t drained? What you’ve got executed for 50 years? Please physician do not give him. Don’t let him kill mummy for us”*
The most hilarious response came from that their same mummy they thought they were protecting from ‘death’ from her husband. Mrs Cecilia said *”DOCTOR DON’T MIND MY CHILDREN O, OBVIOUSLY THEY DONT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY. GIVE MY HUSBAND THE DRUG. LET HIM KILL ME”.*
I laughed so much my tummy hurt. She turned to her two daughters and said *”do I come to your marriage and inform you what to do together with your husbands? So what issues you individuals with my marriage? So since you persons are our youngsters, you suppose you may come between us? You are solely members of the family o, this marriage is between me and my husband and it’s till dying do us half. So you persons are third social gathering. Mind what you are promoting.”*
I laughed again my tummy ached but something struck me in the way she used the two words *marriage and family.*
I was prompted to ask further questions. *I said “ma what do you imply by that is your marriage and they’re simply household, they can not come and intrude in your marriage. What do you imply ?”*
Mr frank cut in *” physician marriage is a union between ONLY two individuals, a person and a lady, husband and his spouse, full cease whereas household is a union amongst three or extra individuals for example father, mom and kids and others.”*
Doctor a lot of people don’t know the difference. *They allowed their children to come in between them in their marriage. This is something every couple should watch out for. You and your wife are the only two people in your marriage and everything that makes two of you happy is your business 100%.*
*Yes you can take advice from your family ( your children and others) but the responsibility lies in your hands both, 100%.*
Another great lesson learnt today again.
I gave them their sex life enhancing drug including mama’s cream. We all laughed and they bid me good bye.
As soon as this blessed, great old couple took their leave, many lessons about marriage and family started running through my unmarried mind and some of these lessons have really helped me in my marriage today. Below are they:
Lesson number 1:
Marriage is an institution created by God from the beginning for only two people. Family is only third party. They should never dictate what happens in it. They can only offer advice.
Lesson number 2:
Good health of a couple depends on so many things but greatest among them all is two of you being one in practising a good life style and daily forgiveness together
Lesson number 3:
No matter how old two of you are in your marriage and no matter how many children you have ,dont stop having sex together. It is a God’s gift to you both in your marriage until death do you part and it will help hold your union together.
Lesson Number 4:
Never allow your family especially your children use divide and rule method for two of you. Always be on the same page when it comes to discipline and love of your family members especially your children
Lesson number 5:
Encourage your children not to be secretive to one another and you be an example of this together in your day to day daily life. Our Children learn more from our lifestyle than they learn from our words
Lesson number 6:
Respect your children’s marriages as their mother and father as a way to boldly query them every time they need to intrude in yours.
Lesson quantity 7:
Marry your pal. When I say this I meant somebody two of you circulate. Marriage is a protracted and mosttimes a lifetime journey. Marrying your pal will certainly make the journey enjoyable and simpler.
(You can equally add different classes you’ve got personally learnt from the story)
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