A Aarmer in historic China had a neighbour who was a hunter, and who owned ferocious and poorly skilled searching canine.

They jumped over the fence regularly and chased the farmer’s lambs. The farmer requested his neighbour to maintain his canine in examine, however this fell on deaf ears.

One day the canine once more jumped the fence, attacked and severely injured a number of of the lambs.

The farmer had sufficient of his neighbours negligence. He ‎went to city to seek the advice of a decide who listened fastidiously to the story and mentioned: “I could punish the hunter and  ‎ instruct him to keep his dogs chained or lock them up. But you would lose a friend and gain an enemy. Which would you rather have, friend or foe for a neighbour?”


The farmer replied that he most well-liked a buddy. “Alright, I will offer you a solution that keeps your lambs safe, and which will keep your neighbour as a friend.”

Having heard the judge’s solution, the farmer agreed. Once at home, the farmer immediately put the judge’s suggestions to the test.

He took three of his best lambs and presented them to his neighbour’s three small sons, who were overjoyed to receive such lovely pets and began to play with them.

To protect his sons newly acquired playthings, the hunter built a strong kennel for his dogs. Since then, the dogs never again bothered the farmer’s lambs.

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Out of gratitude for the farmer’s generosity toward his sons, the hunter often shared the game he had hunted with the farmer.

The farmer reciprocated by sending the hunter, lamb meat and cheese he had made. Within a short time the neighbours became good friends.

A saying in old China went something like this, “One can win over and influence people the best with gestures of kindness and compassion.”

There is one other comparable Western saying: “One catches more flies with honey than with vinegar.”

And, “Do you know what is better than charity and fasting and prayer? It is keeping peace and good relations between people, as quarrels and bad feelings destroy mankind.”


Kindness and compassion are indicators of religion. Let us make it part of us to be well mannered once we communicate and never make impolite remarks and produce individuals down with our phrases at each alternative we get, particularly with our households, pals and colleagues.

Knowledge properly used is energy!

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