My names are Dr Abdullah Oyekole Abu Haneefah *3 Star General*, some Don’t know the that means of this *3 star General* and thinks it is only a mere Nick title, it means I’ve 3 Wives earlier than age 25.
Why am I saying this?
But why did I resolve to direct my Discussion to the boys?
The reply is easy: *Most Marital Crises might have been averted in the event that they haven’t been brought on by the Men themselves!*
If you will have one spouse and also you need to search recommendation in your marital crises, it is advisable to hunt the recommendation of Someone with 2 wives or at the very least one spouse such as you however with extra expertise, if in case you have 2 wives and also you need to search recommendation, the best choice is to hunt from somebody with 3 wives or at the very least 2 wives such as you however with extra expertise, and the checklist goes up.
But for those who as a person with 2 wives seeks recommendation from a bachelor or a person with one spouse, more often than not, the recommendation is Disastrous.
So with the extent of expertise gathered over the course of years spent with completely different ladies, collectively and individually, I need to share some ideas with you that is likely to be the lacking Ingredient in your relationship that is making it looks like a *battle area
Husbands! Please let’s be honest with ourselves.
What precisely do you need to acquire in seeing her Cry?
What precisely is your acquire that she’s unhappy?
What will you get in return when your spouse See’s you and virtually die out of concern as if she sees a ghost?
If you need a lady, however you Don’t need bother then the perfect lady you will get that will not provide you with bother are those on biscuit carton, cleaning soap cartons, drinks tin, and the likes, these ones will all the time be submissive, obedient, They would keep wherever you set them, and if you throw them within the bin, they’ll *Never ever Retaliate* just because they Don’t even *Exist within the first place*.
But in order for you a lady!
That fantastically created being, who’s meant to make life condusive and Liveable, then be prepared for *TROUBLE*!.
You need a lady and also you dont need bother please stay Single.
The noble prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) stated in a well-known narration.
ما تركت بعدي فتنة أشد أو أضر على الرجال من النساء.
(Bukhori and Muslim)
Meaning.
“I did not leave an affliction more severe upon the men, than the *WOMEN!*”
So with this Hadith, we’ve got been assured that there will definitely be some unavoidable afflictions that may befell the boys from the ladies.
So after figuring out this, an inexpensive man, ought to all the time search for methods to keep away from bother along with his spouse and never creating them.
Even although you possibly can’t Totally eradicate troubles and points in marriage as a result of _”Issues are Core part of marriage and marriage itself is an issue, you can’t stop being naughty, and she can’t stop being silly cus these are the core courses in the game of love”_
You can nonetheless efficiently deliver down the frequent stage of marital crises,
We males, We are Naturally Created with *Ego and Pride!*, created with the pure disposition that we should all the time be the lead, The commander in chief of girls forces, the Alpha and Omega of our Territory,
Yes! We all have these trait in us!
But the issue is that we’re not able to compromise this Natural Traits for the betterment of our Marriage,
we’re not able to drop our *EGO* and *PRIDE* to place a Big smile on our Wives faces.
What will it value you to place a smile in your spouse’s face?
What will it value you to assist her with the home chores?
What will it value you to inform her each morning *I really like you?*
What will it value you to miss her shortcomings and deal with her optimistic sides?
What will it value you to take her as a gisting accomplice as an alternative of going out early within the morning and coming again very late at evening?
What will it value you to assist her wash a few of her garments, together with her lingerie?
What will it value you to spend on her to the perfect of your potential?
If they Don’t know they can not make enjoyable of you!
You dont want to inform them you assist your spouse do the dishes!
If your purpose for being laborious and harsh in your spouse is due to what the society will say, then it appears you aren’t able to reside in *Absolute Peace!*
Some males thinks that when they’re strict and inflexible, this earns them Respect earlier than their ladies!
Let me let you know the reality! She will hate you want shit!
If your spouse isn’t free earlier than you and talks to you as if she’s addressing a tyrant ruler, then my brother, you aren’t having fun with ooooo! Wallahi you’re struggling and being disadvantaged of all *Goodness!*
Your spouse is the shoulder you fall on when issues will not be going tremendous!
She’s the fingers you maintain excessive when issues are going clean!
My fellow Responsible Members of the Society!
If we will subdue this Ego of ours and produce down our wings for our wives to fly together with us, marriage would have been a greater place than it’s as we speak!
Love!
Affection!
Attention!
Listening Ears!
Patience!
Humility!
High Sense of Humor!
Feeling of safety!
And all different Praise worthy acts are what makes marriage fulfil it is divine Purpose which is to be a supply of *Tranquility, Love and Mercy!*
